Tips for “The Talk”

Some tips for the birds and the bees chat and a delightful TEDTalk.

Always a tricky subject is when and how to have “the talk” with kids. This article offers some helpful hints when broaching the subject. At the bottom of the page is a link to a charming TEDTalk by Claire McCarthy about her experience with her 8-year-old-daughter. While the story is a great one, I do worry about when parents downplay certain aspects of sex. The daughter asks about a man and a woman meeting on the street and if they would just do it. “Of course not, humans are private!” says mom. But what about a group of guys and girls at a party and would they just start doing it? “No way!”, she responds. On the one hand, you’re trying to equip your kid with an appreciation for the intimacy of sex, the importance of it happening in a trusting context, and the social norms around it. On the other hand, aren’t you also perpetuating a social norm of shame and prudishness surrounding sex? Jury’s still out on that one.

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